The married man may fulfill you in ways other men have not.
He may also be more adventurous than your spouse or other men you have dated.
Kristiana added: 'That went on for some years and then the feelings got more intense and it got to a stage where I started getting careless, as if I wanted to get caught.'I left an earring out and she came in and asked me what it was doing there so I blamed it on my son, but he was only tiny at the time.'The lead-up to what I'd call 'coming out' was about five years.'I wanted genital surgery because I couldn't look at myself in the mirror, I felt sick, but you don't just turn up and say 'I want my bits sorted out'..''I was very matter of fact about it, I used to say 'I'll get my lady garden soon', it softened the mood.'The pair have been the subject of quite a bit of hate after coming out, but say they have made more friends than they've lost.
Denise, 44, says the couple were concerned about how their then seven-year-old son Stephen would react, but say he was 'very matter-of-fact about it'.She said: 'He was really good, he was very matter-of-fact about it and just said "oh, okay".'He was seven when he found out, and Kristiana printed off all the literature and said to him she was no longer living as a man for those reasons.'We told him to read it and ask if he had any questions, but he was really, really good and hasn't been fazed by it at all.'He actually told his friends at primary school, he wanted to tell them in his own words and help them understand it.'We let him do that and that's pretty much where it went from there.'Both my mum and dad have passed away, but I've got my brother and niece in Newcastle.'We weren't sure how they'd deal with it, but they've been fantastic - they've all been so lovely and not fazed at all.'When it came to Kristiana's family, her dad is no longer with us but her mum said she knew all along, as did her brother - it wasn't really a surprise to them.'As far as she's concerned, she now has a daughter instead of a son, and Kristiana gets cards with daughter on instead of son.'Sometimes, what makes a difference is how you've been brought up and how open you are with things.'They haven't treated her any differently, it's the same as it was but instead of calling her son, they call her daughter, and her mum says she's got two daughters and a son.'The couple named their son after Kristiana's former self, as they were expecting a girl and had 'no ideas for a boys name'.But Denise said she is glad their son carries on Kristiana's old name.He may have grown apart from his wife over the years and wants to find someone whom understands him.If he also understands you as well, the satisfaction this brings will often be more fulfilling than sex.